Pls be careful.

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2007/06/28
Date rape: Beware! The danger is in the drink

Going out with a guy you like may no longer mean an evening of fun. It was reported yesterday that 60 per cent of rape cases happened on dates. EILEEN NG, JENNIFER GOMEZ, JEEVA ARULAMPALAM and SHUHADA ELIS look at the issue of date rape and the precautionary measures to take.
KUALA LUMPUR: The next time you go on a date, be careful of your drinks.

Although most girls have heard this warning often, many have still become victims of date rapes due to spiked drinks.

It was reported in the New Straits Times yesterday that 60 per cent of reported rape cases happened on dates — and they are hard to prove in court.

The date-rape drugs not only render the victims unconscious but also make them unable to recall the incidents.
The drugs, like Rophynol and GHB (Gamma-Hydroxybuty- rate), are cheap (between RM10 and RM100 per pill), tasteless and colourless — making it difficult for those on a date to realise that their drinks had been spiked.

Rophynol and GHB’s effects are similar to intoxication, and they take effect between five and 30 minutes after the drug is ingested.

Another date rape drug is "Fry", a generic term for marijuana cigarettes, marijuana-laced cigars and cigarettes or cigars soaked in embalming fluid.

The fluid, which contains phencyclidine, causes blurred vision, short-term memory loss and headaches.

Most date-rape victims are teenagers and women in their 20s, who are socially active and naive. The perpetrators could either be trusted friends or acquaintances.

The Kuala Lumpur Hospital sees about 20 to 30 rape cases monthly, with about five to 10 cases involving teenagers.

Its emergency department and one-stop crisis centre head Datuk Dr Abu Hassan Asaari Abdullah said most of the cases were either statutory or date rapes.

He said date rape usually involved a girl going out with someone she knew and getting raped when she was intoxicated or drugged.

Amelia Kaur, the training manager of a counter intelligence company, The Spycatcher, said victims who consumed spiked drinks would become unconscious and not remember anything.

Amelia, who conducts seminars on rape prevention, said it was due to this fact that many victims preferred not to lodge a police report as they did not have the evidence to support their allegation of rape.

"They won’t remember where it happened, how or with whom," she said.

All Women’s Action Society spokesperson Ho Yock Lin said date-rape victims find it harder to go to the police than those who had been raped by strangers.

"It is easier to relate the crime to the police, counsellors or a judge when you have been raped by a stranger, but when the rapist is someone known to the victim, it is an uncomfortable process.

"Additionally, there could be peer pressure from other friends not to expose the rapist."

For example, she said, in one of the date-rape cases handled by the society, the victim was pressured by her parents to marry the rapist, but she refused.

"She was only 19 when it happened," said Ho.

Women’s Aid Organisation (WAO) president Ivy Josiah said that response to the sexual assault helpline set up by the WAO in 2002 had been poor.

"Those who called related incidents that took place one or two years ago. Obviously, they feel there is a stigma attached to being raped."

WAO social worker Jessie Ang said the organisation received an average of two calls monthly from rape victims.

Counselling was offered to rebuild their confidence.

"It is common for rape victims to feel ashamed and even dirty. If they want to take legal action, we will help them with the process," she said.
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Date rape: What you can do to protect yourself
Posted on 28 June 2007 by Suanie
KUALA LUMPUR: The next time you go on a date, be careful of your drinks.

Although most girls have heard this warning often, many have still become victims of date rapes due to spiked drinks.

It was reported in the New Straits Times yesterday that 60 per cent of reported rape cases happened on dates — and they are hard to prove in court.

The date-rape drugs not only render the victims unconscious but also make them unable to recall the incidents.

The drugs, like Rophynol and GHB (Gamma-Hydroxybuty- rate), are cheap (between RM10 and RM100 per pill), tasteless and colourless — making it difficult for those on a date to realise that their drinks had been spiked. ( Story link )

These are some tips ( by no means exhaustive ) by experts on how you could prevent date rapes.

1) When going out with someone new, go to a public place so that you are not alone with your date.

2) Never let yourself be taken to a second location because it gives your attacker the opportunity to harm you.

3) Never leave your drinks unattended. If you need to do so, finish your drink before leaving or order a new drink upon returning.

4) Listen to your gut feeling — don’t ignore your intuition if you sense you are in danger or uncomfortable with your date.

5) No means NO! Sometimes an attacker thinks the girl is “playing hard to get”, so be assertive. ( Story link )

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2007/06/28
Betrayed, deceived by those they trusted

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KUALA LUMPUR, THU.:

They were young and trusting and they ended up being raped by the very people they thought they could trust.

Samantha (not her real name) never thought she would be at risk when she allowed a male friend to use her Internet access at home.

The 19-year-old shared a rented apartment with her older sister. She was alone when a former classmate asked if he could use her Internet access to do some work.

Her act of kindness turned into a nightmare when the friend, of more than two years, sexually assaulted her.

"He was stronger physically. He also knew that no one would be around to hear my screams," she said of the incident that happened last April.
After the ordeal, Samantha lodged a report at a nearby police station.
"The officers said they couldn’t entertain such cases as they didn’t have female officers to do the necessary check-up," she said.

Samantha then went to a clinic but was referred to the Kuala Lumpur Hospital.

"I waited for hours in emergency before seeing the doctor and getting admitted."

A report was taken by a police officer in-charge at the ward. However, Samantha said, there has been no follow-up by the police.

Megan (not her real name) was gang-raped while travelling with a boy she fancied but hardly knew.

The boy had invited Megan to go on a trip to Penang with his colleagues and a superior.

The boy then asked her to have sex with his boss who had apparently paid for her trip. The girl, afraid and confused, consented out of guilt for the "free trip". She was gang-raped by the other male colleagues after the boss had raped her.

Lee (not her real name) met up with a childhood friend for drinks but ended up being raped in a public toilet.

Lee, who is in her late 20s, said the incident happened when she went to the toilet at the pub they were in.

He volunteered to accompany her as it was in the early hours of the morning and the place was deserted.

"I felt safer having him along. But the next thing I knew, he pushed me into a cubicle, tore off my clothes and raped me.

"I tried to push him away but he was too strong and I was intoxicated. It was over in minutes but those were the longest minutes of my life."

Lee said he left her in the toilet and she was forced to make her way home by herself, all the while blaming herself for what had happened. After a month of dealing with the emotional turmoil, Lee decided to lodge a police report, but there, she was dealt another blow.

"The line of questioning was such that they were casting aspersions as to what I did that led to the rape. They asked me why it took so long for me to lodge a report and whether I liked the guy. They made it sound as if it was my fault that I was raped."

Tips from experts — What you can do to protect yourself

1) When going out with someone new, go to a public place so that you are not alone with your date.

2) Never let yourself be taken to a second location because it gives your attacker the opportunity to harm you.

3) Never leave your drinks unattended. If you need to do so, finish your drink before leaving or order a new drink upon returning.

4) Listen to your gut feeling — don’t ignore your intuition if you sense you are in danger or uncomfortable with your date.

5) No means NO! Sometimes an attacker thinks the girl is "playing hard to get", so be assertive.